How to Make Packing for Your Destination Wedding One of the Things that Doesn't Stress You Out

Destination wedding planner extraordinaire and star of TLC's "Wedding Island," Sandy Malone, shares some very helpful information on packing for your destination wedding on today's blog!

Have you started packing for your destination wedding? Even if you’re getting married six or more months from now, you should have already started. No, I’m not kidding. Think of how stressed you get packing for a vacation or business trip at the last minute – this is YOUR BIG DAY. You should start packing the day that you start planning. 

First, you need to get out two boxes (eventually you’ll need more). Label one “things to pack” and label one “things to ship.” Find a nice safe place for them (not in the back of some closet where the cat has been known to divest herself of hair balls, please). 

Second, you should sit down and start an actual packing list for your wedding week. You’re probably clearer-headed the farther out you are from your wedding. Put EVERYTHING on that list and keep it going as you plan your wedding. Makeup, perfume, headpiece, back-up CDs in case the DJ screws up, wedding gown emergency kit (chalk, Shout wipes, diaper pins, etc.), extra razor blades. Put everything on there. You can always erase it later and laugh about what must have been going through your head when you put it on the list. 

Third, as you start acquiring things for your wedding, put them in the appropriate boxes. Yes, you’ll pack everything into suitcases and shipping boxes later. But start using those boxes from day one. You aren’t going to (or shouldn’t) wear the lipstick you’ve chosen until the day of. Into the box. Same with special scents (perfume, bath gel, body lotion, etc.) that you can’t wear til that weekend or you’ll spoil the whole point of making them the smells that remind your spouse of the day you married for the rest of your lives.  

When the time to pack and ship comes – you should REALLY start packing a month prior to your departure – almost everything will be sorted out exactly where it needs to go. That’s the time to do that drugstore run for the travel-sized things on your list, force your fiancé to get the new shoes (oh yes, your future spouse’s stuff going into these boxes too), and go through that packing list again to add and delete what’s become more important and totally unnecessary as your planning progressed.  

Tip: Tackle the “to be shipped” items six or more weeks out so that you can mail them the cheapest, slowest way possible to your destination (that advice DOES NOT APPLY to actual wedding gowns – dresses go via overnight delivery ONLY). 

In the month prior to your wedding, you may have a bridal shower (at least one) and a bachelorette party to attend, as well as finishing up any DIY things you couldn’t resist. It took three bridesmaids to help me finish dipping in chocolate the 700 homemade buckeye candies for my hometown reception in DC a week after my destination wedding. Although I’d hand-painted ornaments for destination guests as favors with plenty of lead time, each needed to be carefully wrapped, tied with ribbon and then packed carefully in shipping boxes with as much bubble wrap as content. These things take time. 

You are about to get married, and your head will be scrambled. If you follow my advice here, you won’t be hunting for the beautiful hair pins you purchased the weekend you got engaged eight months later when you actually need them. They’ll be in your “things to pack” box waiting for you. No stressing.

Sandy Malone is the star of TLC’s “Wedding Island” reality show and FOX’s “Bodas Increibles.” She has almost 500 weddings of destination wedding experienced and is a regular blogger for The Huffington Post and Brides. To learn more visit www.WeddingsinVieques.com or www.SandyMaloneWeddings.com and on Facebook at www.facebook.com/SandyMaloneWIV

 

Posted on September 19, 2014 and filed under Guest Posts.

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Thursday Action Step

Posted on September 18, 2014 .

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Wedding Wednesday Weekly Roundup

This week we're rounding up the important stuff every bride should do to take better care of herself and her body before her wedding. Check out some of these articles on everything from sleep habits to beauty regimen. It's never too late to begin implementing something to put yourself first!

The Secret to Sleep the Night Before Your Wedding Day via The Knot

The Ultimate Bridal Beauty Checklist via Brides Magazine

Bridal Bootcamp: 22 Exercises for Toned Arms and Shoulders via Health

15 Essential Wedding Skincare Tips to Get a Gorgeous Bridal Glow via Wedding Ideas Magazine

Mind and Body: Staying Healthy Before the Wedding via Dream Wedding

Photo by Hayes & Fisk Photography at www.hayesandfisk.com or on Facebook and Twitter @HayesandFisk

Posted on September 17, 2014 .

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

You Said "Yes," But Can You Say "No?"

You found the guy! He popped the question. You said "Yes!" That was the easy part. Now that your wedding planning has started, you might find yourself saying "yes" to lots of things. Yes to the appointment, to the bridal shower and the bachelorette party. Saying "yes" is easy, it's saying "no" that's often the harder thing to do. And there are times when saying "no" is necessary.

Preparing for the big day is no simple task. It involves lots of work and decision making. Couple that with work, family, social activities and life in general, you may start feeling like you're being stretched thin. Chances are you're not going to have time to do everything that comes your way. Enter the power of "No."

There are times when you will and must say no to preserve your sanity, if not your health. Here are some guidelines to help you know when it's okay to say "No." If you're sick or feeling under the weather, you must take care of yourself and decline outings, get-togethers, or even a scheduled appointment if you can. Running around while you're feeling unwell will make you feel worse and likely hinder your recovery. Put yourself first. No guilt. Period.

Already overwhelmed and stressed out? Then don't add more responsibilities to your ever-growing to-do list. If you feel like your are taking on too much, then don't volunteer your services if you can't. Also, if a situation doesn't directly relate to you, you have the right to say no. For example, your friend is moving to a new apartment and asks you to help. While, under normal situations you might agree, now that you are super busy with your own issues, you can decline. Unless it's something important to you or mandatory, just say no. Adding more stress to your life at this busy time will likely be counterproductive.

So how do you say "No?" You might think, "How can I say no? They'll think I'm rude, mean, or inconsiderate." That may, in fact, be true. But what others think is not your problem. Your issue is how to say "no" in order to put your physical and mental health first, And for that, you must be honest. When it comes to turning people down, always be upfront with them. Tell them you're not feeling well, stressed out, or have too many other commitments. You can also tell them when you might have more time for them; like, after your honeymoon! If you still feel guilty, you might try asking someone else if they can pitch in. "I don't have time to volunteer for the holiday party this year, but I know someone who wants to be more involved and can help," would be a great way to turn someone down without leaving them empty-handed.

The key to saying "No" is saying it and then sticking to it. Don't get caught up in long explanations either. Keep it simple. It's hard initially, especially if you're used to always saying "Yes." But it's a powerful tool that will help you get more things accomplished and take better care of yourself.

  

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Monday Motivation

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.