3 Tips to Start Your Marriage Off Right

If you're recently married, you may be wondering, "how do I start my marriage off on the right foot?" If that thought crossed you're mind, you're already one step ahead of the game. You understand and appreciate that marriage, like most relationships takes work. Here are a few simple things you can do to begin your happily ever after!

1) Have Dinner Together:  Sounds pretty simple, but with busy life and work schedules, it's easy to take little things, like dinner, for granted. But eating together gives you both a break from the busyness of life. It allows you to sit together and enjoy each other's company, and if done right, focus on your relationship. Dinners are best unplugged. That means no interruptions from phones, emails, television, etc. Talk about your day, your hopes, dreams, or even your fears. Make sure to listen to your partner too. Even if you're not all that interested in your spouse's latest lesson plan for school, make an effort to hear him out. If he's telling you about it, it's important to him. So make it important to you too. If it's impossible to have dinner together because of conflicting schedules, set aside some time together each day to have "unplugged" time and listen to each other. It could be over a cup of tea or breakfast in the morning. But make a point to talk and listen to each other uninterrupted.

2) Pay a Compliment or Two:  Another important way to help your relationship is to compliment one another. Everybody wants to know that they are good at something, that you appreciate what they do, or that you admire some quality of theirs. Sure you may have told that to your husband before you married him, but it doesn't end there. Make it a point to acknowledge your spouse's talents, character traits and other things he does. It doesn't have to be excessive, but enough that he knows you appreciate him and all he does. You can thank him for always helping clear off the dishes or remind him how much you love his humor or commitment to family. These little reminders go a long way in keeping the love alive.

3) Make a Plan:  It helps to start your married life off with a plan: a household chores plan. Doesn't sound all that romantic in helping your marriage, but some structure is important in relationships. By creating a plan, you give each other a set of responsibilities around the house each of you are in charge of. A clear plan limits the need for conversations like, "honey, did you take out the trash" or "who's paying the bills this month?" Sure, every once in a while you may need a reminder, but beginning your marriage with a clear idea of who's doing what will help you find balance and reliability in your relationship.

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Posted on October 24, 2014 and filed under Beyond "I Do".

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Thursday Action Step

Posted on October 23, 2014 .

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Wedding Wednesday Weekly Roundup

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Plan Your Wedding More Productively With These 10 Steps

Feeling overwhelmed? Afraid you're not on track with all your wedding planning details? Nip the wedding worry wart in the bud with these 10 productivity tips!

1) Make a Schedule: It's easy to forget about all the things that have to get done before the big day if you don't have a schedule. If you fall into this category, sit down and make one. Don't make it too complicated either. Try starting with what you need to accomplish this week. Jot it down and then allot the specific days and times you plan to work on it. The hard part is sticking to it!

2) Limit the Time You Spend on the Web: Surfing the web for inspiration and wedding ideas is fun, but can become quite time consuming if you don't check yourself. Give yourself a set time (e.g. 30 minutes) to be online and then turn it off and start getting stuff done.

3) Get Organized: If your wedding information and research is all over the place, you'll find yourself spending a good deal of time looking for everything before you can get start getting any work done. Set up a wedding work space and files so you know where to find your vendor information and all the important details when you need them and without delay.

4) Say "No" to Interruptions: Friends keep calling for updates? Family wants your help, but you don't have time? It's okay to tell people "no" every now and then. You have a lot to get done. Let people know you are busy and don't have extra time while you are planning your wedding. Or do what need to get accomplished first and then make time for everybody else. Let them know your plan and it can be a win-win for all.

5) Don't Let it Pile Up: It's easy to let your to-do list pile up. If you keep putting aside tasks that need to get done, that's exactly what happens. If possible, tackle easy tasks as they come in, like opening up your mail, scheduling appointments, or writing thank-you notes.

6) Wake Up Earlier: Getting out of bed a few minutes earlier can put you ahead of schedule. Even ten minutes earlier, can give you extra time to eat a healthy breakfast, meditate, or otherwise, take better care of yourself or finish up a project you were working on the night before.

7) Turn Off Distractions: When you're working on wedding planning, do it fully. Turn off your computer, television, and other distractions that can pull you away from the task at hand. Doing this will help you get more things done in less amount of time.

8) Check Your Time "Wasters:" It's a good idea to sit down with yourself and figure out what's consuming most of your time. Do you get distracted easily? Do you find yourself sleeping in because you're too tired? Are there too many social commitments? Look at what's occupying most of your schedule and see how you can fix it to better manage your productivity.

9) Get Motivated: A little motivation can go a long way. Sometimes all you need is someone there to help cheer you on and make sure you're on track. Choose a person you trust and enjoy working with and ask them to be your cheerleader. Have them check in with you every few days to make sure you're sticking to your schedule and have your priorities in order. Choose someone who can pitch in and help if you need her too, as well.

10) Take a Day Off: Whether it's on a workday or a weekend, dedicating a full day to planning your wedding can help you get caught up. Make sure you use it wisely, however, and keep in mind the other 9 tips so you get the most out of your day.

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Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.

Monday Motivation

Bridal Balance is an advice and motivational blog aimed at helping the bride-to-be reduce stress, build confidence and enjoy her engagement. It was founded by clinical social worker and certified professional life coach, Michal Caplan. Contact Bridal Balance to learn more about private coaching or for additional information.

Disclaimer: The information, advice, comments, and resources provided on this site are for general informational purposes only. It is not intended as therapeutic, legal, financial, or other personal advice. While all the information is written with good intention, personal situations vary and individuals are encouraged to seek out professional advice for specific situations. This site or the advice written within does not constitute therapy or counseling and will not be held liable for any financial, legal, personal or other losses occurred.